Signs That You Are Meant For Each Other

"Love is when you journey life together." - L.G.

As you go on with your relationship, you notice some signs whether you are destined to be together or not. Here are 20 signs that you are really meant for each other:

#1  You share the same interests most of the time. Both of you may enjoy biking, watching movie, travelling, listening to music, playing a certain sport, or reading books. Sharing the same interests would give you the chance to do things together and enjoy each other's company.

#2  But sometimes you don't. Guys don't have to be a hypocrite when girls ask them to go shopping with them. Likewise to girls when their men ask them to play DOTA on a weekend. But appreciating each other's personal wants and allowing their partners to do things they love is just so nurturing.

#3  Oftentimes you disagree but you know how to compromise. Respecting each other's difference is the key towards longevity of your relationship. You might not have the same opinions every time but at least listen to each other's point of view and learn to meet halfway.

#4  No one else comes close. Yes, this song! Third party issues are always a dead end. Yet cheating can only happen if you consent it. In a true relationship, you are assured by your partner that you are not his/her best because you are the ONLY ONE. Besides, you can also sense it if it is already existing in your relationship. Don't play deaf and blind!

#5  You choose to be together. Whether it's a big event or a simple barkada gathering but you are sick or just need some company, your partner would rather be with you. Sometimes, they do this to avoid any arguments but the mere thought of this counts a lot! So be able to return the favor when it happens to you.

#6  You laugh at each other's jokes. No matter how shallow, "corny", or stupid the joke is, you still laugh at it. You never grow tired of each other.

#7  You can never be too busy when it comes to your partner. Believe me, it's true! Even when I host a party or do the laundry, I would always make sure I reply his text messages or answer his call. So if someone tells you he/she is too busy to text you today, maybe he/she is up to something else. Even the busiest person can text someone good night before he sleeps. Remember if there's a will, there's a way.

#8  You tell each other your email and FB passwords and you can always exchange cellphones. Privacy issues? Oh, come on! If there is nothing to hide, then what are you afraid of? Guilt-free people are the happiest and worry-free.

#9  You can fart or pick your nose without making you less attractive. Doing these carefree actions without being judged or criticized by your partner makes you a happy, contented couple.

#10 You have seen each other at your ugliest but still love each other. It's when you don't wear make-up or even put on your lipstick or when you have a bad hair day but your partner would still say, "You look good today!" But of course, not in a sarcastic tone.

#11 You want to dress up and look handsome to your partner. There will be days when you want to impress your partner with your new T-shirt or blouse or your new pink lipstick.

#12  You still get jealous at times. Occasional jealousy means your relationship is a healthy one. A person gets jealous not because the other person is cheating. It is because he/she cares for him/her. Just make sure you don't overdo the "jealousy thing" by turning small issues into big ones.

#13  You are comfortable with each other's families. Just take the song "Rude" as an example. Her father does not want him so the former becomes rude to the latter. It is always best to get the approval and blessing of your partner's family. These things are rather gained, not asked.

#14  You are comfortable with each other's friends. Both of you have your own circle of friends before your relationship started. Now that you are one, it would be best if you befriend each other's peers. The more the merrier, isn't it?

#15  God is the center. You pray together and you pray for each other's betterment. You place God in the middle of your relationship that whatever plans you have, you pray that He may bless both of you.

#16  You work together for your future. It is very easy to say "I wanna marry you!" or "I wanna be with you for the rest of my life." It takes a lot of patience and hard work to build a good future and you don't want your future to be bleak, am I right? A good relationship is when you learn to be patient for the right time. You do not immediately decide on things just because you feel very head over heels with your partner. Love is not only about feelings. Later on, you will realize it is more about choices and making right decisions.

#17  You enjoy moments of silence. You don't have to feel obliged to talk every time it gets quiet. Sometimes, a little silence and gap make you appreciate the beauty of the surroundings as well as the warmth of each other's hands.

#18  He/She makes you a better person.  Because of him/her, you quit your bad habits. You become more health-conscious and you stop your vices. You are doing this not because you want to impress your partner, but because you realize the importance of yourself. You need to live long for your partner.

#19  He/She shares secrets to you that he/she doesn't tell anyone. Trust makes this thing possible. Your partner trusts you and knows that he/she can count on you for pieces of advice.

#20  There was never a major fight in your relationship. You might have fought over which restaurant to dine that night or why you did not want to watch his favorite movie but you never fought over a friend's very meaningful and sweet messages. There was never an issue on cheating or other worse stuffs. As for me, cheating can be the worst nightmare. Having no money is better than seeing your partner happy with someone else. At least, we can work hard together to earn a living. Once trust is broken, it's hard to fix it. You might be able to reconcile, but time will come when past issues are brought back.

Every relationship is unique but I believe if you are really meant for each other, majority of the above-mentioned signs are there. If you don't see these things in your relationship, maybe it is a sign that you have to let go of it. It might be very hard at first but you will soon realize that you have gotten rid of that thorn that has long pricked your heart. For those who are happy with their relationships, congratulations! Make it even happier!

If you have something else to add to the list, feel free to comment. It's a sign that you are in a very happy relationship! <3

When Should You Start Working to Make Things Work #9 Things To Know

As years pass by, the intense feeling of excitement and thrill in the relationship gradually declines. It will somehow be replaced by a feeling of boredom especially when you both do the same thing every day. The good news is you don’t have to feel guilty about it! Everyone else does. At some point of our lives, our relationship tends to be steady, effortless, and dragging. But this does not mean it is the end of it. If you don’t know how to beat boredom and spice things up, it surely will but then life gives us many options to detour and find a more exciting way. So the best thing to cope with this is to understand why you’re bored and how to deal with it!

Reasons why you are bored:

1.      It’s a routine. Relationships can really be boring when things become so predictable. Work/school – See each other – Dine together – Watch TV – Sleep. But hey, routines can be broken by doing something new. You can spice it up by making surprises once in a while! You may bring some flowers when you fetch her from work or give him a card to say thank you. You can be creative at making a surprise. Giving presents or going to new places don’t need special occasions for them to be done. Every day is a special event that you have to be thankful for.

2.     Communication Protocol. I remember a friend of mine told me that even though they were always together with his girlfriend, they seldom talked because they were busy doing their own stuff. This proves the line, “so near yet so far.” Enjoy talking and listening and sharing stories and jokes.

3.     Work hard, harder. There is actually nothing wrong with working hard as long as you understand why you are doing it. You might be saving a lot of money for a wedding that might not happen just because you missed a lot of things while you busy yourself at work.

4.     The One You Were Before. Probably, you miss being single and the things you were able to do before – friends, night out, alcohol, games, etc. Or perhaps, you think that you are gradually losing your identity by trying to blend with your partner. If you are having these thoughts, well think again. Are you really ready for a commitment? And if ever you need some break, just make sure you are ready to see your partner with someone else because once something is broken, it’s just impossible to put them back together the way it was.

5.     The One He/She Was Before. People do change and so does your partner. The first time you met your partner might be very magical and you thought that he/she was the best person, the most understanding, the kindest, the smartest, and the all-in-one person. But time unveiled the true color of your partner and the flaws have become more visible each day that even the tiniest detail could become a big issue. Yet relationships are about acceptance. No one is perfect. You, too, have your own shortcomings. Each one of you is there to complement the other.

6.     Still scouting for other options. Until now, you still look at other girls or glance at other boys and when you look back at your partner, you see the things that they have which your partner does not possess. This might become frustrating later on because you tend to be dissatisfied with what you have and disappointed with what you couldn’t have. But just be fair. If your partner possessed what you saw in others, do you think he/she would still choose you?

7.     A mere obligation. As time goes by, you seem to do things like you have to and not because you want to. This makes you grow tired of your relationship because seeing each other would then become an obligation rather than your passion. Since when did school become enjoyable? I guess, it’s when you start having fun at the same time realize that a great future begins here.

8.     Shaky Ground. Nowadays, relationships tend to be less planned and couples tend to be less prepared. They quickly jumped into it without considering the effects it might bring into their lives. Most people cannot distinguish true love from infatuation. True love is when you admit that he/she is not the most beautiful person in this world but you would still choose him/her over and over again. It is when you do not dream of a fancy wedding anymore as long as she says “I do,” you can marry her in any place or church at any time. True love does not end happily ever after just like fairy tales do. It simply does not end.

9.     The Future. We are in this relationship because we see our partner as a lifetime partner and not someone we can easily dump when things get rough. Try asking yourself, “Can both of you keep up with life’s challenges? Would you choose to help each other in times of reluctance?” I bet you would say yes. You wouldn’t know it unless you’re there. So better set your goals, determine your ways, and do your best to walk following the right path.  

Acceptance is the key towards solving any problem. Once you have accepted the cause of the problem, you can then find ways to solve it. You are in this relationship because you chose to be part of the team. There is no need for the finger-pointing game. No one is to blame. Knowing all these things takes you to a vantage point to start working for your relationship to work. Best of luck! You have all my prayers.